A while ago, I wrote about how the second pregnancy was different from the first.
Now that the baby is here, I can tell you about what it’s like going from one child to two. My son was 16 months when our daughter was born, so he’s still a young toddler.
I have included some tips I found helpful for introducing the toddler to the new baby. This is my personal story as someone with a partner, so if you’re a single mum, you may have a much harder time with two. Here we go…
When I was pregnant with my son, I didn’t want to keep a traditional baby book. I knew I’d have a hard time taking the right photos. Some pages would end up empty (for example, we didn’t have a baby shower and they’re not a common event here). Then, there would be getting the photos printed into the awkward and varied sizes many baby books demand… I wanted to make something that wouldn’t feel incomplete…
You may be surprised just how different it is to be pregnant a second time. My first pregnancy was relatively pleasant after a somewhat awful first trimester (fatigue and morning sickness). However, with my second now I’m certainly feeling more fatigue, more stress, and generally less excited about another baby.
If you’ve been reading the birth stories around you probably heard a lot of horror stories about being induced. Things like, the pain is a million times worse, you will absolutely NEED an epidural, etc. Well, I want to add my story in and reassure you, if you’ve been told you may have or need an induction, for whatever reason, that it won’t necessarily be that bad. I was induced a few days before my son’s due date because of gestational diabetes. They had allowed to go to my due date because it had been well managed through pregnancy, however going over was not on the cards for me, especially because I was noticing decreased movements as well. You can read how I managed my gestational diabetes without insulin here.
This is what you can expect from an induction and how mine went. ..
Reflecting on the birth of my son, I realized I could have been better prepared and saved myself a lot of discomfort. Some things I didn’t even think of, other’s were due to circumstances I hadn’t planned for but probably should have (a slightly extended stay and tearing).
So, here is an opportunity for you to learn from my mistakes.
Being diagnosed with gestational diabetes is tough. When I got pregnant, I knew I had a lot of risk factors, but the diagnosis was still a bit of a shock. Before pregnancy, I had made a lot of progress with weight loss. I was hoping that this would be enough to reduce my risk, but it wasn’t. At 26 weeks I had the glucose tolerance test, and was informed of the bad news. I was devastated. I let myself be sad for a couple of days, then I started doing research.
This second part, is the important part. I took the initiative to learn about it myself. I was booked in to see a dietician after my results came back, but I can say that if I tried to follow what she said I would not have been able to stick to it, felt a failure, and ended up on insulin or other drugs to control my sugar levels.
What they advised was, heavy restriction of both carbs and fat. What is left after this? Fibre and protein. A great way to rapidly become emaciated. It might be an ok diet for short term weight loss, but this is not particularly appropriate during pregnancy.
What I opted for instead was a low carb keto diet. It kept my blood sugar in a great range, and I maintained a decent weight range. Growth scans also showed my baby was growing normally, not the high growth rate you’d expect with gestational diabetes. He was born at a healthy, normal weight of 3.5kg, and I was also able to carry him to my due date and avoid an early induction.
If you’ve just been diagnosed with gestational diabetes, I hope you can be inspired by my story.
This is what I did…