You may be surprised just how different it is to be pregnant a second time. My first pregnancy was relatively pleasant after a somewhat awful first trimester (fatigue and morning sickness). However, with my second now I’m certainly feeling more fatigue, more stress, and generally less excited about another baby.
You will find here everything you need to know about the pros and cons of pacifier use for your baby.
This was something I really thought long and hard about while I was pregnant with my first. For many it is a controversial topic. Should you let your baby use a pacifier or just let them suck their thumb or fingers? Does it really matter in the long run?
These are all the arguments for and against pacifier use…
If you’ve been reading the birth stories around you probably heard a lot of horror stories about being induced. Things like, the pain is a million times worse, you will absolutely NEED an epidural, etc. Well, I want to add my story in and reassure you, if you’ve been told you may have or need an induction, for whatever reason, that it won’t necessarily be that bad. I was induced a few days before my son’s due date because of gestational diabetes. They had allowed to go to my due date because it had been well managed through pregnancy, however going over was not on the cards for me, especially because I was noticing decreased movements as well. You can read how I managed my gestational diabetes without insulin here.
This is what you can expect from an induction and how mine went. ..
Reflecting on the birth of my son, I realized I could have been better prepared and saved myself a lot of discomfort. Some things I didn’t even think of, other’s were due to circumstances I hadn’t planned for but probably should have (a slightly extended stay and tearing).
So, here is an opportunity for you to learn from my mistakes.
In part 1, I talked about how to navigate cultural issues. What about when this is compounded by a language barrier? Your home will probably have a dominant language, the one that both of you speak well enough to communicate in. This may be your native language, your partners, or perhaps even a third language which is a second language for both (such as the official language of the country you’re living in, and the couple have no other common language).
Most people can’t or don’t communicate effectively with people who already speak their native language, and we are unfortunately living in an era of declining social skills. When your partner is from a different language background, effective communication skills become even more important.
With the following advice I’m assuming there is enough language skill for most day-to-day communication, that you can generally understand each other, but may have occasional miscommunications or misunderstandings. These may arise from grammatical mistakes, misused or confused vocabulary, difficulty expressing complex ideas or forming complex sentences, etc.
Are you trying to find non-toxic baby products and always get disappointed with the plastic hell in stores? Well, you’ve come to the right place.
I’ve curated this list for those of you using Amazon’s baby registry (you can set one up here) or who are interested in detoxing their baby’s items to benefit their long term health.
Being diagnosed with gestational diabetes is tough. When I got pregnant, I knew I had a lot of risk factors, but the diagnosis was still a bit of a shock. Before pregnancy, I had made a lot of progress with weight loss. I was hoping that this would be enough to reduce my risk, but it wasn’t. At 26 weeks I had the glucose tolerance test, and was informed of the bad news. I was devastated. I let myself be sad for a couple of days, then I started doing research.
This second part, is the important part. I took the initiative to learn about it myself. I was booked in to see a dietician after my results came back, but I can say that if I tried to follow what she said I would not have been able to stick to it, felt a failure, and ended up on insulin or other drugs to control my sugar levels.
What they advised was, heavy restriction of both carbs and fat. What is left after this? Fibre and protein. A great way to rapidly become emaciated. It might be an ok diet for short term weight loss, but this is not particularly appropriate during pregnancy.
What I opted for instead was a low carb keto diet. It kept my blood sugar in a great range, and I maintained a decent weight range. Growth scans also showed my baby was growing normally, not the high growth rate you’d expect with gestational diabetes. He was born at a healthy, normal weight of 3.5kg, and I was also able to carry him to my due date and avoid an early induction.
If you’ve just been diagnosed with gestational diabetes, I hope you can be inspired by my story.
This is what I did…
After having my son, I became appalled with the options for baby wipes. Chemical laden, and even supposedly “hypoallergenic” wipes made him break out in an angry red rash. The only brand not containing weird unpronounceable ingredients was priced INSANELY high. $7.50 for some cloth and water wrapped in plastic which will barely last me a week?!? No way am I paying that for something so easy to make myself.
What I ended up making, in fact, turned out to be better. It cleans with way less effort, this means using less wipes, and less waste. They are cheaper than store-bought wipes and didn’t cause any skin reaction for my son. They only take a few minutes to make. This is how…
My main anxiety regarding baby care as a new parent was bathing. I worried that a squirmy, slippery baby would slip from my hands and get injured. I had heard a long time ago that the bathroom is the most deadly room in a home, it’s full of hard surfaces which are often wet, and become slippery. Bathtubs also create a drowning hazard. The thought of giving my newborn a bath terrified me….
Part 2 of this post is now live, check it out here
If you’re in a relationship with someone from abroad (or even a different region or minority group from your own country), you may feel at times that you come from different planets. Things that aren’t even on your priority list at all can be a big deal for your partner. Similarly, they can carelessly step on your toes as well.
If they’re from a different language background, these problems can become compounded with miscommunications. You know, suddenly they seem offended and you can’t understand why, or they give a mindless ‘yes’ to a question it later turns out they didn’t understand at all. Then there’s the times it feels like they’re having a completely different conversation with a voice in their head rather than actually hearing what you’re saying, and you get stuck in a loop of repeating or explaining and they keep not understanding.
Maybe the primary language in the home is your partner’s and you find it exhausting to try and speak. You may sometimes also feel embarrassed when you make mistakes.
I’ve been there, and I’m here to help if you’re having a similar situation.
This is a two-part series. In the first post, I’ll be dealing with culture. In part 2, I will be dealing with linguistic issues. Here are my tips….